Or maybe you just want to learn a lot about safe sex, and how one would be a porn star, if one was so inclined. Honestly you wont learn a lot about safe sex from watching porn, but you will learn a lot from watching this video.
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Morning After!!
At last! A judge ordered the FDA to allow the morning after pill, Plan B, to be available over the counter!
Hurrah!
Plan B is not my favorite pill to take, because it can be crampy and make you cranky, but seriously, the drug is as safe as anything and it’s important to have access to it.
Yay for sensibility taking over. No need to have be legislating sexual morality.
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Bang With Friends
Bang with Friends: it’s useability is clunky at best, but I love the concept.
Ya’ll had to have known I’d review Bang With Friends so you can decide if you want to use it or not.
Of course, it’s kind of useless if you don’t all use it, so you better just sign up now & we’ll all see how it goes together.
So here is the situation. It’s an incredibly low tech/low input site that connects via Facebook to allow you to choose friends you might be interesting in, well, banging. I guess that’s why it’s so simple. Because it’s just that simple.
You basically agree to let it access your facebook, and then a page indiscriminately comes up with all of your friends profile photos. It’s like a sloppy collage. Below the name you can click “Down to Bang” or keep scrolling.
Once clicked, their photo is just there with “Awaiting Bang” glaring you in the face – like all of your failed flirtations just flaunting themselves for the world to see.
It’s nerve wracking!
Next! Someone that you have clicked on clicks on you. Then you get an email (to your real email address, not to your facebook address, which kind of annoyed me because email is more real to me and only for real and important things, not like messing around on this website). The email is entitled “It’s flirtin’ time!” and comes from “pimpin.” (Really? Cute or gross?! Not sure). It happily tells you “This fuck brought to you by Bang With Friends,” which I appreciate. Score for foul language.
You can click the link and see who said they would bang you.
(Never fear, privacy protectors! You only get an email saying someone is into you if you’ve also clicked them. There is no way they will ever know unless you both indicated interest).
Now, if said bang buddy has the gall to email you (might as well, since now you know anyway!), you get another email from pimpin telling you “It’s bangin’ time!” Addressed to “Hey, sexy,” they want you to know “Your friend wants to knock boots with you!” (Again, for the most part I appreciate their ridiculous lingo). Hilariously, if you email someone first, it suggests some starter text “Hey baby, let’s get a little more comfortable.” Which would make me decidedly uncomfortable, but whatever gets people to get some, I guess.
So here are my technical qualms:
-I got all trigger happy and just started clicking people! Oh yes, I’d bang them! Without thinking about it. And it appears there is no way to unclick them. What if I accidentally clicked them? What if I would have hooked up with them last week, but this week I’m over them? What if since I clicked that I was “down to bang” said person, they started dating my best friend?! The tragedies.
–There needs to be a search function!!! What if I signed up with a specific desire to bang in mind? I know who my friends are. I know which of them I would do. Why can’t I just get to it and find them, rather than scroll through everyone (somewhat embarrassingly), fretfully looking for that person, who may never pop up?! Arghh!!
-There is literally no discrimination regarding who you can click and not click on. Not that I’m facebook friends with anyone’s grandma, but I certainly don’t want to be clicking my cousins, siblings, or best friend’s aunt. There should be a filter that makes it so your family isn’t an option. For uncles with different last names/you haven’t listed them as family, there should be a “dude, that’s my uncle, don’t ever show me their picture again” button. I know they’ve said they are working on this, but it can’t be that hard.
-There should also be a way you can create your own filters. Like a “no way I’d never bang them please don’t show me their picture” button for your best friend’s little sister. Or a “I just broke up with this person, please hide their face from me for the next 6 months or appropriate waiting time for me to try to bang them again.” Honestly, I feel a little bit like I violated some of my friends just by looking at their profile picture via this forum. Some people have pictures of their infant babies as their profile picture. I couldn’t help but be like “OH NO! BABY! & I’m not a homewrecker!” I want to filter out these people too. I love you, but don’t want to violate you with my inappropriate glances. Basically, I just want to categorize all my friends.
-There was an early user complaint that you could only pick people of the opposite gender. Which is obviously fucked up and unacceptable and totally archaic. They seem to have solved the problem, but in a really sloppy way. I guess not everyone indicates their gender on their facebook page, so that may be the root of this problem, but when you first open the page it shows you literally everyone. Then you can click on the gender symbol for male or female, but really, that doesn’t work either, because if I never said my gender on facebook, I’ll go in either category. I know it’s a little much to ask this service to let me say “I am generally more attracted to female identified folks” or whathaveyou, but I get the feeling this will be a problem for some people. Some dudes just want to do dudes and not find their lady friends on Bang With Friends. (My personal feelings about gender identity aside…)
-I wouldn’t mind if there was an option to email me even if I didn’t click you. I mean, of course they could just regular email me, but this forum might just give them the kick in the pants they need to say “hey, you would definitely do.” Maybe I just hadn’t thought of you in that way, but I will once you email me.
My emotional qualms:
Well, really I don’t actually have any emotional qualms because I wholeheartedly support the idea of having it be fine to occasionally sleep with your friends if everyone is being mature & smart & safe & communicative about it. (Though one could argue if you needed this app to make it happen, you may not have those things, but….)
But the experience did make me stop in my tracks a bit. How responsible do I have to be for who I click on? How seriously should I take it? What if I would sleep with one of my married friends? I mean, I have a friend with a kid who I have the craziest sexual chemistry with. If the opportunity to cheat fell in my lap, I wouldn’t say no. I guess he knows this already though, so maybe it’s a moot point. It still gave me some moments of existential crisis. Should I cast a wider net, or a more conservative net?!
It’s a lot easier to click on someone in an abstract way than it is to actually fuck them. I guess when it got down to it, you could back out.
All these things made me really pull back on my trigger happy clicking. I guess I felt I really should be able to put my money where my mouth is (my pussy where my click is?) and only click the people I truly would in fact fuck right then and there. Some messy questions can come up about whether or not you’d be willing to risk that friendship for a fuck, but the hope is if they are clicking you, they’ve thought it through, too.
Frankly, friendships get ruined by this sorta mess anyway, so why not get laid more often by the people you love already?
Overall, dead serious, I love this idea. It’s 8 bazillion times better than getting drunk and accidentally fucking your friend. At least you both consciously and soberly said it seemed like a good idea, and then had to exchange at least one awkward laugh/email/text/conversation about it to make it happen.
So, go forth and sign up. Then tell me you are down to bang, and it’s kind of likely I’ll do it.
xox
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Hillary Supports Gay Marriage
Today in at least it wasn’t all as bad as the media coverage of Steubenville, Hillary Clinton supports gay marriage!
Some days you just gotta take what you can get.
The cause of these welcome changes? Effective and widespread use of contraceptive. Suck it abstinence only education, only the widespread use of contraceptive has been shown to reduce both teen pregnancy, and abortion.
Teen birth rates have dropped yet again, reaching a historic low, and the number of babies being born early or with a low birth weight has also declined, a new U.S. government report shows.
Many factors may account for the improvement, experts say.
“We talk more about teen pregnancy, the responsibility of having a child and how difficult it is to be a teen mom. We also talk about contraception and abstinence more,” explained Dr. Jill Rabin, chief of ambulatory care, obstetrics and gynecology at Long Island Jewish Medical Center, in New Hyde Park, N.Y.
“Adults have to remember we’re fighting the adolescent sex drive that developed as a matter of survival of the species,” Rabin said. “It’s important to remember the three I’s when you’re working with teens. They think they’re immortal, invincible and infertile. We have to convince them otherwise and dispel the myths, and the message needs repetition.”
As for the decrease in preterm and low-birth-weight babies, Rabin noted that “prenatal care is getting better, and the message of the importance of prenatal care is getting out there.”(via)
After years of holding steady, new Center for Disease Control data shows that the United States abortion rate has fallen to an all-time low. It dropped 5 percent between 2008 and 2009, the most recent years for which data is available, the largest decline in the past decade.
The big question for public health researchers is: Why? What was different in 2008, that might have lead to this downtick in abortions?The answers seem to have less to do with economic trends, as some have suggested, and potentially more about the more effective contraceptives women are increasingly using.
The CDC data can tell us a bit of this story. Alongside the drop in the overall number of abortions, the agency also found a decline in the abortion ratio. That figure measures the number of pregnancies terminated for every 1,000 live births. That number dropped too, from 232 in 2008 down to 227 in 2009, a 2 percent decrease. That suggests that the story here isn’t just about fewer pregnancies. We can see in the data that the decisions women make after becoming pregnant are playing a role, with more deciding to continue with the pregnancy rather than terminate.(via)
What it is, why we shouldn’t do it, all in one awesome video.
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Gender Bending Fe/Male Model: Awesome
More of this please! More here.
Did you know teenagers like to have sex, seems that most of America is in denial, thankfully there are still places in the world where sanity reigns.
kittensmetmittens from Reddit offers more context:
As you can see now in /r/TIL there is a post pretty high up that is interesting, especially for me. This is the post: http://www.newsy.com/videos/study-dutch-romantic-sleepovers-prevents-teen-pregnancy/
The reason this is interesting for because, you may have guessed it, I’m a Dutch young woman myself. I watched the video and was left confused. This is not how it’s normally done in the rest of the world?
story time, you can skip this if you want
I have an awesome mom (also an awesome dad, but we don’t talk about this subject together), she went to the doctor with me to get me birth control pills. They have been covered in our health care plan for a long time, I’ve been on them for 3 years now. And then I met my boyfriend about 2,5 years ago. My mother was very happy for me as to see me happy with a very nice guy. I remember when she asked ”Well.. did you kiss him yet?” and giggled like a school girl when I said yes. He was allowed to sleep over at my place (lived at home) immediately after it was official, we already knew eachother 2 months. She let me go sleep at his place (he didn’t live at home) after about a month. I lost my virginity that night at the age of 16 after some weeks of teasing and trying out. I’m now 19 and moving in with the same loving boyfriend. All is good.
I asked my mother a few weeks ago. ”You were pretty loose on that subject with me, how come?”. She told me about my uncle, her brother. He had been seeing a girl which is now my aunt. He was in his twenties but lived at home. He was allowed to see her in daytime but was not allowed to sleep over, since they weren’t married yet. My mother asked her mother, my late-grandmother, why? My grandmother got pissed and said ”you know damn well why!”. My mother says she was slapped across the face when she pointed out they could just do it in daytime. She was not allowed to talk about it anymore.
end of story time
This was 40 years ago. This was the mindset of people in the 1970’s, when there was still a blanket of christianity over the Netherlands. When people still stuck their heads in the sand about the fact that teenagers pretty damn horny and need to know how to control/release those urges. My mother told me she promised herself that moment she would never be as blind to it as my grandmother was. That’s why she let me go.
How come parents think that if they don’t talk about sex and just preach abstinence all will be fine. They were young themselves once, have they forgotten? Do they not now if the more you tell teenagers not to do something, the more they will. Do they not want their teenagers to be protected from pregnancy and STD’s, to be in a safe environment? Of course I’m not a parent, but isn’t the most important thing for your child to be safe?
I am very shocked to see that apparently this is still the mindset in Modern America. I thought this was a pretty normal way of dealing with 16-year old me. Ladies of TwoX, is it really as bad as it seems so be?
Combines all my favorite things, sex, science, and campy humor.
http://www.earth-touch.com/ Let’s talk about sex. And not just any old sex. The animal kingdom is a wild place — and it’s got mating habits to match. We’re getting it on with kinky rituals, titillating pheromones, post-coital cannibalism, golden showers, orgy marathons & penises that put King Kong to shame. Biologist-with-a-twist Dr Carin Bondar is stripping down to the bare truth of nature’s X-rated side.
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Sex Positive Podcasts
You can learn a lot from listening to other people talk about sex, and “non-standard” relationship styles.
For your listening enjoyment:
In Bed With Susie Bright Audible, Website
Life on the Swingset iTunes, Website
The Boris and Doris Podcast iTunes, Website
Polyamory Weekly iTunes, Website
Sex Nerd Sandra iTunes, Website
Tangentially Speaking with Dr. Christopher Ryan iTunes, Website