I wish there would be a revolution in our media where we depict people as sexy in realistic ways. I am not against using sex in ad’s, I am against making impossible things sexy, because then everyone is striving to be something that is impossible.
Category: Sex
Since women kind of cleaned house last night in the elections and Akin and Murdock so didn’t win, I’m feeling a wave of relief I had been waiting for.
Jaded as I am, it’s time to take a minute to celebrate these victories and the small steps forward we are taking as a nation. We voted, and we said no thanks to all the men saying ridiculous horribleness about women’s bodies, rape, abortion. And I actually think young generations have some progress to look forward to. We aren’t going to outlaw gay marriage forever and ever off into the sunset. It just won’t happen. We are moving on.
We elected the first openly gay Senator! Oh Tammy Baldwin! In a lot of ways, I was more excited about that than any other aspect of the election. We are over it enough to elect a lesbian. That is a step. Seriously.
Plus, the voters all did right given the choice on gay rights:
Maine legalized gay marriage!
Washington upheld gay marriage!
Maryland upheld gay marriage!
Minnesota voted to not change the constitution to ban gay marriage.
And for a breakdown, here is my new favorite graphic for gay rights state by state. Slowly but surely!
YAY!
It’s really hard to argue with this beautious infographic on why we need sex education.
I often blame my poor introduction to sexuality on my poor sexual education. Our health teacher literally used to say “down there” to us. When oh when do we get to stand up and shout “this is unacceptable! We deserve better!”
There is nothing more obvious than the importance of teaching kids how to be healthy about sex. And occasionally, there is nothing more helpful than a visual guide for why something is a good idea.
Check it:
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Plan B!
Exciting new development on the Plan B front! It seems that New York City is going to pioneer this badass new program in which girls as young as 14 will have access to over the counter emergency contraception from school nurses.
They have so far been sneaky about revealing plans and testing out the pilot program, but if it goes well I think it’s going to be an amazing start to a future where the kids who really need it get access to the birth control they really need! (Birth control in the non-emergency form will be/has also been made available).
All ye non-believers out there: I have argued again and again that kids are having sex anyway – the availability isn’t going to make them have more sex. It’s just going to make it easier to do it safely. Hurrah!
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Republicans & Rape
Okay this shit is getting really fucking ridiculous. I keep having these waves of anger about politics that make me forget we are talking about rape for a minute.
I really don’t usually listen to the “regular” news, like the ABC, NBC, Fox, CNN sorta news. Mostly I just read the paper. But I fascinated by the politicking in the Todd Akin rape conversation. I went so far as to listen to Hannity interview him.
So yeah, all those major republicans from Romney to Ashcroft to asked him to get out of the race. It’s fascinating that he is hella set on running, saying that the people voted for him and they want him, so he’s going to stick to it and run. If he loses, republicans may not have control of the senate. Which is exactly why they want to distance themselves. They don’t actually believe anything different, they just need to win that seat so they have control.
But the thing is, it’s kind of brilliant that he said it. It’s like one of those brief glimpses into the true psyche of someone who thinks we still live in the 1950’s. It doesn’t matter that he’s since apologized and said that he was in fact medically incorrect when he said a legitimate rape wouldn’t produce a baby. He slipped and said something that people actually think. I kind of love when that happens. Better we know now than when he already was in office. Terrifying, but fascinating. And now all those dudes who totally secretly agree with him, at least in some way are having to denounce what he said.
But just yesterday, the Republican party drafted a platform that includes anti-abortion legislation so strict that exceptions would not be made in the case of rape or incest.
So yeah, the republicans have to distance themselves from him because there has been such a backlash regarding what he said. You know it’s real bad when even Rush Limbaugh says it’s stupid. But it’s all about the politics of it. They just want that seat. They don’t care a hoot about actually protecting a mother who would have the trauma of carrying a baby born out of a rape. A baby is a baby is a baby, and they think that baby should just get born.
To make you feel a little less horrible about the hoopla this week, there is feminist obabma and a beautiful song on how to know it’s legit rape. Okay and here is a clip of true emotion from Biden earlier this year on rape.
Just like when Obama said “rape is rape” and I felt it was real and good to hear, I really like what Biden says here.
I don’t care that he’s a dude and he’s “in charge” or any of that shit. He actually gets that you can’t just go around saying there are levels of rape. One rape isn’t worse or more rape than another rape. It’s just all around fucked up. Hopefully this will help us understand that.
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Birth Control!
Kathleen Sebelius, the Health and Human Services Secretary, and I haven’t always been on the best of terms. I was appalled when she overode the FDA recommendations on Emergency Contraception. I’m pretty sure a Health and Human Services secretary had never publicly overruled what the FDA suggested, and this was just bollocks. It’s great that EC is available now in the pharmacy without a prescription (what a hassle it was back when we needed to go to Planned Parenthood to get one. Lord am I glad I will never have to go that again. UGH). But given the fact that EC was found no more harmful than something like acetaminophen, and that can be found right next to the cough drops and bandaids, why can’t the EC be right there next to them!?! Bring on the access!
Anyway, I digress. Today is the day Kathleen Sebelius and I get to be on good terms. She gets to let us all know that something kick ass happened in the world of birth control. No more co-pays for birth control! Thanks, Obama! Of course it’s not all magic and sunshine (only private plans are effected, it may take a while to kick in, it won’t work if you are on medicaid, if you work for a religious organization you are still fucked – not in the good way, etc.) But it still is a great day in terms of moving towards something good. Progress is progress!
But you’ve just gotta love this photo of Kathleen Sebelius with her poster “Simply Being a Woman is No Longer a Preexisting Condition.”
That’s just the sort of talk that makes me feel okay about the world for a minute.
Because seriously not having babies is a key aspect to being able to enjoy sex to the fullest.
And access to birth control is crucial to not having babies. Didn’t Dan Savage once say the worst STD is an unplanned pregnancy? Did I imagine that?
Anyway, go forth and do it and get all not knocked up. Hurrah!
Very very curious to see Showtime’s new series Polyamory.
Of course there are so many ways to structure relationships, and of course a reality show about poly folks is going to have to sensationalize it. But after Sister Wives and Big Love I’m excited to see a portrayal of non-traditional relationship structures minus the religion.
So do I have to get Showtime now?
I was glad to see this video this morning – a happy little PSA about not abusing the ladies in your life.
Of course it’s sad we need to be reminded, but it’s also important that politics tackles these matters on every level. The sad truth is that we need these PSA’s. Silence about abuse is the worst weapon.
I just finished reading Sister of Silence, a brutal memoir about a young girl who marries her rapist when she gets pregnant at a young age. The thing that really struck me about the book is how she didn’t even realize she was in an abusive situation until she heard someone else tell her story and think to herself “that’s just what happened to me.”
Speaking up, telling your story, Take Back the Night, PSA’s about violence against women – these can be the moments when women realize that their situation is not okay and try to get out of it.
But it’s even extra awesome that this little video is all men and they are talking to men. I am so fucking done telling women not to get abused. Time to tell men not to abuse them.
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Masturbation Month!
How on earth did I almost miss this?
Today is the last day of May, and you know, May is Masturbation Month!
True facts. If you haven’t been paying attention yet this month, you have some catching up to do.
Despite all the obvious benefits of masturbation, listed above, I think that masturbation is especially important for young women to figure out what it is they like. If you know what you are into, you are much more likely to have better sex, since you will be confident in getting what you want and asking your partner to do things you like. If you are clueless about what you like, how is someone else gonna know?
Masturbate away!
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Fifty Shades of Vag Balls.
I have this concern that I’m not truly a blogger until I’ve read and analyzed Fifty Shades of Grey all over this town.
But I don’t have time for this crap so here’s the biz.
1. It doesn’t matter how, if housewives are getting off I support it.
2. My thoughts about BDSM will have to be addressed elsewhere, but if this somehow unleashes someone’s fantasy, good on em.
3. WHOOOP for the increased sales of Ben Wa balls.
#3 is my main and favorite concern here. I hope people all across America are doing their Kegel’s right now.
Can’t help but post this hilarious video from Fun Factory, a sex toy maker.
Despite the bad music, it does contain truth about your pelvic floor muscles, childbirth, sex and all that healthy vagina goodness. So, YEAH.