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Booty Politics

Watch 20 Strangers Kiss For The First Time

This is so beautiful.

Perhaps strangers should kiss more often.

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Sex

Want To Be A Porn Star?

Or maybe you just want to learn a lot about safe sex, and how one would be a porn star, if one was so inclined. Honestly you wont learn a lot about safe sex from watching porn, but you will learn a lot from watching this video.

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Politics Sex

Slut Shaming

What it is, why we shouldn’t do it, all in one awesome video.

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Sex

Dutch “Romantic Sleepovers” Decrease Teen Pregnancy, Increase Sanity

Did you know teenagers like to have sex, seems that most of America is in denial, thankfully there are still places in the world where sanity reigns.

kittensmetmittens from Reddit offers more context
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As you can see now in /r/TIL there is a post pretty high up that is interesting, especially for me. This is the post: http://www.newsy.com/videos/study-dutch-romantic-sleepovers-prevents-teen-pregnancy/

The reason this is interesting for because, you may have guessed it, I’m a Dutch young woman myself. I watched the video and was left confused. This is not how it’s normally done in the rest of the world?

story time, you can skip this if you want

I have an awesome mom (also an awesome dad, but we don’t talk about this subject together), she went to the doctor with me to get me birth control pills. They have been covered in our health care plan for a long time, I’ve been on them for 3 years now. And then I met my boyfriend about 2,5 years ago. My mother was very happy for me as to see me happy with a very nice guy. I remember when she asked ”Well.. did you kiss him yet?” and giggled like a school girl when I said yes. He was allowed to sleep over at my place (lived at home) immediately after it was official, we already knew eachother 2 months. She let me go sleep at his place (he didn’t live at home) after about a month. I lost my virginity that night at the age of 16 after some weeks of teasing and trying out. I’m now 19 and moving in with the same loving boyfriend. All is good.

I asked my mother a few weeks ago. ”You were pretty loose on that subject with me, how come?”. She told me about my uncle, her brother. He had been seeing a girl which is now my aunt. He was in his twenties but lived at home. He was allowed to see her in daytime but was not allowed to sleep over, since they weren’t married yet. My mother asked her mother, my late-grandmother, why? My grandmother got pissed and said ”you know damn well why!”. My mother says she was slapped across the face when she pointed out they could just do it in daytime. She was not allowed to talk about it anymore.

end of story time

This was 40 years ago. This was the mindset of people in the 1970’s, when there was still a blanket of christianity over the Netherlands. When people still stuck their heads in the sand about the fact that teenagers pretty damn horny and need to know how to control/release those urges. My mother told me she promised herself that moment she would never be as blind to it as my grandmother was. That’s why she let me go.

How come parents think that if they don’t talk about sex and just preach abstinence all will be fine. They were young themselves once, have they forgotten? Do they not now if the more you tell teenagers not to do something, the more they will. Do they not want their teenagers to be protected from pregnancy and STD’s, to be in a safe environment? Of course I’m not a parent, but isn’t the most important thing for your child to be safe?

I am very shocked to see that apparently this is still the mindset in Modern America. I thought this was a pretty normal way of dealing with 16-year old me. Ladies of TwoX, is it really as bad as it seems so be?

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Sex

Your Sex Life Is Boring Compared To The Sex Lives Of Animals

Combines all my favorite things, sex, science, and campy humor.

http://www.earth-touch.com/ Let’s talk about sex. And not just any old sex. The animal kingdom is a wild place — and it’s got mating habits to match. We’re getting it on with kinky rituals, titillating pheromones, post-coital cannibalism, golden showers, orgy marathons & penises that put King Kong to shame. Biologist-with-a-twist Dr Carin Bondar is stripping down to the bare truth of nature’s X-rated side.

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Sex

Kate Winslet: ‘I Don’t Look Like That And I Don’t Desire To Look Like That’

I wish there would be a revolution in our media where we depict people as sexy in realistic ways. I am not against using sex in ad’s, I am against making impossible things sexy, because then everyone is striving to be something that is impossible.

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Booty Politics Politics Sex

Republicans in Your Vagina

Republicans, Get In My Vagina! from Kate Beckinsale

I need a republican to get in my vagina.

It is seriously one of those things that you just can’t reconcile.

Alas, there are moments of hilarity.

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Booty Politics Sex

Vag Lightening Cream.

Some things are so rage inducing that they cause you to start a blog.

I’ve been enraged by Fair and Lovely, a skin lightening cream used in Africa and India that bleaches your skin with the intent of making you whiter, and therefore somehow more attractive. I studied abroad in Kenya when I was an undergrad, and I promise you that people actually use this heinous. One of my homestay sisters would very casually apply it, and when I pressed her for details about it, would simply say “oh, it’s just my cream.” It’s so horrifying that we assign so much importance to whiteness that people freely apply this crap to their bodies that there is no way I can address all of the implications in one blog.

I’ve also been equally or possibly more enraged by My New Pink Button. MNPB is a “temporary dye to restore the youthful pink color back to your labia.” It’s apparently supposed to keep your lady bits looking young since as we age we get “genital color loss.” Oh, and when we make babies. Dirty stuff that.

Women don’t need another thing they are comparing themselves to other women about or another way to live up to a non-existent ideal. Especially when inevitable differences like age and race are being fetishized. And when the process of getting there “burns.” I’ve researched a bunch and haven’t found any ingredients yet. But the chemicals that are in MNPB cannot possibly be okay to put anywhere near your vag. (Especially if they don’t even have the gall to list the ingredients on the website!)

And now we’ve really done it by combining the two. Clean and Dry is a great new product that will leave you “fresher, cleaner, fairer!” As if the idea of douching isn’t insane enough already, preying on the most ridiculous of lady insecurities, this product is bleaching while douching, and that’s just perfect.

One of the ads portrays an (already light skinned) couple clearly not having enough sex. But somehow this lightening douche magically makes everything more magical again. How is it possible that we have taken racism and sexism so far and so intertwined as to be disrupting our poor lady bits in such a foul manner? It makes me so sad that in some ways we have come so far, but in the ways that matter, we are still so far from having figured it out.

Everyone has different colored vaginas. That’s fact. Whatever natural stat your labia/vulva/vag/general lady parts are in is beautiful and perfect. Don’t go fucking with products like this to make em more appealing. Gross! There is no normal vag color, and thank god. Yours is right.

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Politics Religion Science Sex

Right Wing Homophobes, Really Just Afraid Of Themselves?

My favorite kind of science is the “duh” science. Usually people make fun of it, because the published findings have titles like “Water makes you wet.” or “Hungry people like food.” Sure you can laugh, but without someone going out and doing this basic science, its impossible to move on to more complicated and advanced things. So when I read this recent studies headline “Is Some Homophobia Self-Phobia?” all I could say to myself was “duh!”

Homophobia is more pronounced in individuals with an unacknowledged attraction to the same sex and who grew up with authoritarian parents who forbade such desires, a series of psychology studies demonstrates.

The study is the first to document the role that both parenting and sexual orientation play in the formation of intense and visceral fear of homosexuals, including self-reported homophobic attitudes, discriminatory bias, implicit hostility towards gays, and endorsement of anti-gay policies. Conducted by a team from the University of Rochester, the University of Essex, England, and the University of California in Santa Barbara, the research will be published the April issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

“Individuals who identify as straight but in psychological tests show a strong attraction to the same sex may be threatened by gays and lesbians because homosexuals remind them of similar tendencies within themselves,” explains Netta Weinstein, a lecturer at the University of Essex and the study’s lead author.

“In many cases these are people who are at war with themselves and they are turning this internal conflict outward,” adds co-author Richard Ryan, professor of psychology at the University of Rochester who helped direct the research.

The paper includes four separate experiments, conducted in the United States and Germany, with each study involving an average of 160 college students. The findings provide new empirical evidence to support the psychoanalytic theory that the fear, anxiety, and aversion that some seemingly heterosexual people hold toward gays and lesbians can grow out of their own repressed same-sex desires, Ryan says. The results also support the more modern self-determination theory, developed by Ryan and Edward Deci at the University of Rochester, which links controlling parenting to poorer self-acceptance and difficulty valuing oneself unconditionally.

The findings may help to explain the personal dynamics behind some bullying and hate crimes directed at gays and lesbians, the authors argue. Media coverage of gay-related hate crimes suggests that attackers often perceive some level of threat from homosexuals. People in denial about their sexual orientation may lash out because gay targets threaten and bring this internal conflict to the forefront, the authors write.

The research also sheds light on high profile cases in which anti-gay public figures are caught engaging in same-sex sexual acts. The authors write that this dynamic of inner conflict may be reflected in such examples as Ted Haggard, the evangelical preacher who opposed gay marriage but was exposed in a gay sex scandal in 2006, and Glenn Murphy, Jr., former chairman of the Young Republican National Federation and vocal opponent of gay marriage, who was accused of sexually assaulting a 22-year-old man in 2007.

“We laugh at or make fun of such blatant hypocrisy, but in a real way, these people may often themselves be victims of repression and experience exaggerated feelings of threat,” says Ryan. “Homophobia is not a laughing matter. It can sometimes have tragic consequences,” Ryan says, pointing to cases such as the 1998 murder of Matthew Shepard or the 2011 shooting of Larry King.

To explore participants’ explicit and implicit sexual attraction, the researchers measured the discrepancies between what people say about their sexual orientation and how they react during a split-second timed task. Students were shown words and pictures on a computer screen and asked to put these in “gay” or “straight” categories. Before each of the 50 trials, participants were subliminally primed with either the word “me” or “others” flashed on the screen for 35 milliseconds. They were then shown the words “gay,” “straight,” “homosexual,” and “heterosexual” as well as pictures of straight and gay couples, and the computer tracked precisely their response times. A faster association of “me” with “gay” and a slower association of “me” with “straight” indicated an implicit gay orientation.

A second experiment, in which subjects were free to browse same-sex or opposite-sex photos, provided an additional measure of implicit sexual attraction.

Through a series of questionnaires, participants also reported on the type of parenting they experienced growing up, from authoritarian to democratic. Students were asked to agree or disagree with statements like: “I felt controlled and pressured in certain ways,” and “I felt free to be who I am.” For gauging the level of homophobia in a household, subjects responded to items like: “It would be upsetting for my mom to find out she was alone with a lesbian” or “My dad avoids gay men whenever possible.”

Finally, the researcher measured participants’ level of homophobia – both overt, as expressed in questionnaires on social policy and beliefs, and implicit, as revealed in word-completion tasks. In the latter, students wrote down the first three words that came to mind, for example for the prompt “k i _ _”. The study tracked the increase in the amount of aggressive words elicited after subliminally priming subjects with the word “gay” for 35 milliseconds.

Across all the studies, participants with supportive and accepting parents were more in touch with their implicit sexual orientation, while participants from authoritarian homes revealed the most discrepancy between explicit and implicit attraction.

“In a predominately heterosexual society, ‘know thyself’ can be a challenge for many gay individuals. But in controlling and homophobic homes, embracing a minority sexual orientation can be terrifying,” explains Weinstein. These individuals risk losing the love and approval of their parents if they admit to same sex attractions, so many people deny or repress that part of themselves, she said.

In addition, participants who reported themselves to be more heterosexual than their performance on the reaction time task indicated were most likely to react with hostility to gay others, the studies showed. That incongruence between implicit and explicit measures of sexual orientation predicted a variety of homophobic behaviors, including self-reported anti-gay attitudes, implicit hostility towards gays, endorsement of anti-gay policies, and discriminatory bias such as the assignment of harsher punishments for homosexuals, the authors conclude.

“This study shows that if you are feeling that kind of visceral reaction to an out-group, ask yourself, ‘Why?'” says Ryan. “Those intense emotions should serve as a call to self-reflection.”

The study had several limitations, the authors write. All participants were college students, so it may be helpful in future research to test these effects in younger adolescents still living at home and in older adults who have had more time to establish lives independent of their parents and to look at attitudes as they change over time.

Other contributors to the paper include Cody DeHaan and Nicole Legate from the University of Rochester, Andrew Przybylski from the University of Essex, and William Ryan from the University of California in Santa Barbara. (via)

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Science

The Science Of Love

The Love Competition from Brent Hoff on Vimeo.

There are some who claim that science ruins the mystical excitement of this world. They claim that once you reduce everything down to atoms, and physics, and math that you have lost some essential wonder or glory or excitement. I fully reject this notion, I feel like an piece of art is even more enjoyable if you understand the chemical process of the paint, of the molecular structure of the stone. I feel that knowing more about emotions, like love, allows you to more fully appreciate the awesome grandeur of the human experience.

This video is a perfect example of that. These people are taking the ultimate in human emotion, love, and having it “reduced” to a number. Having it “diminished” to a series of electrical impulses in the brain. And far from being reduced by the process they are uplifted and enriched. Knowing that love is a series of chemical reactions in their brain, that can be reduced to a “score” did nothing to limit the joy these people felt.

In fact I would make the argument that now these people know that love is not something ephemeral, never to be understood. They know that love is real, that they can have it, and that it can exist, that is can even be measured. I think each person left that office with a sense of hope and wonder and awe. They are marveling at their own minds, and I am sure upon reflection marveling at the process that created their minds.

I love this video.